This is a PSA to anyone who has ever had a dream and felt like things went wrong: You can not live your life in regret. You can, and you can choose to or you can realize that there is more ahead of you than behind you. If you have felt like things went wrong or maybe you listened to your fears more than one time, you can still turn your life around.
Regardless of how long it has been or how much you feel you have lost or missed, you can still turn this around. It is going to take admitting that you’re not where you’re supposed to be and it’s going to take admitting that you’re not happy, but it is better to start today and work towards what you ‘thought was going to happen’ rather than use today to wallow in the regret of what did not happen. Sometimes our fears are a way to protect us, they are an emotion just like any other emotion but it doesn’t make it truth.
When you’re about to trip over a cord your fear comes out; but it in the same setting, you can take that cord and move it out of the way. If you tripped, you can get back up. But you won’t get past the cord and to the other side if you just lay there. Maybe you fear there is another cord, and another one and it’ll leave you hanging down on the floor like this one, but a way to cure that fear is to realize what you have learned from laying on that ground. You can look at the next cord and say: okay, this time, just jump over the cord, move it (or tear it out of your way) or find a way to get around it. When you learn to fall and when you learn from your fall, you can better navigate your life but if you look at your life and things that bring you pain as roadblocks, you’ll forever make them stopping points. They are just resting points to learn and grow from. So if you feel you’re not where you are at, here are some things to get you back up and remind you of where to go:
- If you can draw it, you can do it. If you have a big idea, drawing it can help get it out. If you have an app you want to build, draw what it looks like, draw it out, write it out and share it. If you ‘want a website, sketch it.’ Draw on paper what it’s supposed to look like and how it’s supposed to feel, color it, bring it to life. If you want a book, write out the chapters, write out the beginning, middle and end. If you want to build a house, build a plan. If that plan doesn’t work, build another sketch.
- You’re going to get hurt and that’s okay. It’s a part of life. You’re going to lose things that were once familiar. You’re going to experience deaths in your family and people around you. You’re going to lose jobs, and opportunities. You’re going to under perform, you’re going to over perform. You’re going to get tired and you’re going to be driven, you’re going to want to give up and you’re going to be excited about your ideas. It’s all a part of your journey but you have to keep going, just because you don’t have the energy does not mean you stop.
- You’re going to need to do your laundry. Unless someone else does it for you, you’re going to have to brush your teeth, take showers and make your bed. If you don’t want to, that’s fine, it’s just a reminder that in good and bad, in amazing times and in devastating times you’re going to have to wake up and continue with your day. Time doesn’t pause for anyone, regardless of who you are or what you have, time does not stop. Keep waking up. No matter how bad things get, you can always create something better for yourself.
- There is more than one way to getting something. I did not start speaking because I wanted to be a speaker. I wanted to be a speaker, yes. But I would have never imagined that what I’m passionate about; media and social justice would be the vehicle to which I started speaking. I thought I’d just speak but it took years of volunteering, working on other people’s projects and continuing to do work that I believed in and wanted to do that I started speaking. You don’t know how things will manifest themselves, be willing to do the work and realize the complicated mess that things are sometimes. All great things look shiny, but peel them back, and you’ll find the skin, the core and everything that makes it whole.
- Wake up and work. Working may not always feel like you’re working on the thing directly but your efforts may indirectly lead there. Don’t think just because it hasn’t happened yet, it never will; there will be a way, you must be willing to be open to opportunities and roadblocks. Keep doing to work. If you want something bad enough, you’re going to work for it. If you want a song, have you written it yet?
- Truth: You can think about your ideas all you want, all day, in fact; for years but if you don’t actually do something, they’ll never come to life. Thinking doesn’t make them happen, doing does.
And if you don’t feel like you have what it takes, sometimes more than skill, you need faith, belief, and trust to make them happen. If you trust in yourself and if you trust in your ability to build and figure things out, you’re more likely to make them happen. More than knowing how to do something faith will enable you with the ability to learn how to do something you don’t know; trust will give you the confidence to believe in yourself even if you feel you lack the skills.
And lastly, remember that you don’t need permission to start or to start again. Sometimes you just need the affirmation that you can. If you have failed and if you have fallen in shame because you don’t feel like you are where you need to be, you can get up and start over again. there are no rules, you can start over again, it’s okay. Failing is just learning how to better navigate next time. Sometimes we all need to turn the page and find a new place to write, to be and to grow. As long as you keep growing, you’ll remain alive and true to your core. Keep growing, keep believing, and keep trusting that the invisible thing called your dreams will guide you. Happy Monday!
If you find mistakes, please do comment below, I’m happy to edit.