This piece appeared on POV: What You Really Need at BU
In honor of a tweet I saw a couple weeks ago by BU, I thought I’d track back to my freshman year and list 3 things I wish I would’ve brought to kick off my college years!
1) Fearlessness. I was terrified…like all the time. I know this seems strange and not like me, but believe me, I was scared. Not necessarily of the new experience, but I felt like I didn’t belong and so I shut down. Freshman year was THE HARDEST YEAR, EVER. And surprisingly, now going into my Senior year, I’ve heard this by a TON of people. Freshman year stinks, but not to fear, it’s all a part of the process. If you aren’t having a good time, it’s okay to say so, it’ll help you access, reevaluate and work towards a greater time.
2) My Hobby. Fun fact, I’m a big crafter, I’m a creative baby that was raised with a hot glue gun in one hand and a sticker collection in the other. It brings me joy and peace of mind. But silly willy – and probably the more logical side of me- decided to sell her art supplies and crafting goodies before moving across the country. Probably wise for the time being, but in the long term I didn’t feel I had my creative outlet of expression. Eventually, when I went home for Christmas, I stocked up on some magazines, but they didn’t do the trick. So, I decided to seek elsewhere and joined organizations that were doing cool creative thangs. This definitely helped but if there is one thing I would suggest, it’s believe in your talents, hobbies, passions and pursuits, they’ll keep you sane…and grounded. ❤
3) A Cleaner Slate. Sure, you’ve heard this one before ‘break up with your boyfriend back home.’ But more than that, try not to take extra baggage with you to campus, you don’t need it. Easier said than done, I know. But if you can try to slowly let go of anything that doesn’t make you happy, I highly recommend you do it. Sure, occasional skype calls are okay but eventually you’ll learn, there was a reason why it didn’t work out the first 4345 times. Just let it go. You’re in a new place, it’s your time to learn more about who you are, what you want and how to get it.
P.S. Totally ignoring people doesn’t work also. It’s hard on the soul, let things organically play out, don’t push your feelings, the truth will be apparent in time.
Why didn’t I list things you can run out and buy? Because most of those things, you really don’t need. Those cute white boards and dorm decor, totally not needed. To be honest, I didn’t have money my freshman year to buy food, let alone room decor. For the first couple months, I felt out of the loop because so many dorms were super cute and decorated to the T but when it came time to pack I was glad I didn’t invest any money in decor because 1) SO MUCH GOES TO WASTE 2) If you’re traveling distances, ain’t nobody got room for all that junk in their trunk, literally. As a senior, I’ll admit, I will be decorating my dorm, but with goodies I’ve snagged up over the years. With that said, should you choose to decorate, make yourself at home! Seriously, you’ll need a place you can come back to after a long day to call home. ❤ This will be your home for the next…however many years you decide is best for you…make it a place you’ll be proud to have lived.
Warning: Items on this list can not be bought, they may be pursued and come from the personal belief in oneself. If there is one item you should take from the list, I highly recommend you take your own belief; your belief in yourself, and your belief in something larger than yourself- your ideas, your purpose, your future.